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I posted on FB something every day this week. I ended the week with my own post. This is it.

Infertility is a disease that is very close to my heart. Eric and I have struggled for over six years with infertility. For many years I remained silent and suffered alone. It took me a long time to realize that there is support out there, and even though people may not understand what I’m going through, they are there to offer a shoulder to cry on.

Often the strongest looking people and the happiest people are the ones who are suffering the most. Infertility has made me doubt every decision I’ve made along the way, made me question my faith, made me feel like I am alone in a world full of parents, brought many tears to my eyes, and forced me to ponder my purpose in life. You may be happy that this week has ended and you don’t need to see my infertility advocacy posts any longer, but for me, my struggle continues.

Infertility is about discovering who you are when you are lost and broken. It’s about finding a new meaning and appreciation in the simplest parts of life. It’s about letting go of the life you’ve imagined, dreamt, and sought, and accepting the things you have.

It is the road less travelled, and I pray no one I love ever travels it. And if you must, know that there is a world full of people who don’t know what it feels like, but surely will reach out and hold your hand, so you don’t travel it alone.

I pray that everyone struggling with the heavy weight of infertility finds peace in their journey, and may we be the parents we were meant to be in Heaven.


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I had a dream 2 nights ago that Eric and I were at Disneyland. I was wearing my common thread, of course. Everywhere we went I kept seeing this girl who also had the common thread bracelet on. So being completely dorky, I kept trying to get her to notice that I was wearing one too, so I kept waving my right arm up, and then when we were in line, I would rest my hand on the bar. The funny thing is that I would totally do something like that in real life. So after running into this girl all day, and her never noticing my bracelet, I get a tap on my shoulder from behind. Its the girl, and she give me a huge hug and walk away. And that was it.
I was telling Eric about it and he had this huge theory. Number 1, I was at the happiest place on Earth, and number 2, he thinks “somebody” was telling me to say good-bye to Infertility. Its a good theory, and I hope he’s right. If I did say good-bye to Infertility, I would definitely be in the Happiest Place on Earth 🙂

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For awhile now I have been wanting to get the common thread.  I now have it, finally, I have been looking forever.  I am wearing it proud and surprisingly I feel very empowered with it on.  I feel like I am representing so many infertile couples and our difficult struggle. 

Infertility is so silent.  It is something no one talks about and mostly because people don’t know what to say, so they say “Stop trying and then you’ll get pregnant.”  Most people are fertile and don’t understand the painful struggle associated with IF.  I think most people think “Oh well, don’t have kids”  but its not that easy. 

I could go on for days about insensitive comments from people, but I won’t.  So far, no one has asked me about it and I’m not sure what I would say.  I guess it depends on who asks.  I have seen the common thread one time, and I can’t wait to see one again now that I have it on. 

I wear it and I am proud to represent my struggle and the thousands of other couples suffering.

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