Archive for April, 2012

The list is long enough on its own.

A lot has happened since my last post. Well, maybe not that much, but we moved and we’re renting a townhouse. And we got a new little dog. She’s so cute! Her name is Oreo, and she’s 2. She’s a Beagle mix.


In other news this is National Infertility Awareness Week. At an attempt to raise awareness and break the silence, I posted something on FB. It said “April 22-28 is National Infertility Awareness Week. Infertility is a heart-wrenching, faith-questioning, relationship-testing, life-altering, finance-draining experience that affects 1 in 8 couples. Give a hug to someone you know who is suffering the heartbreak of infertility.”

If that doesn’t let the world know I’m struggling, I don’t know what will.

Specifically that post says that infertility is finance-draining, which is the purpose of this post.

So exactly how finance-draining is it? Well let’s recognize that 6 months ago we failed at IVF after spending ~$12,000. Of course we got pg spontaneously 2 months later, which ended in an ectopic pregnancy and emergency surgery.

So what is the cost of an ectopic pregnancy? A pregnancy that is life endangering, filled will far too much hope, most likely pain, fear and agony, and in the end you come home with empty arms? A pregnancy that leaves your uterus scraped, your heart broken and you still empty.

The total financial cost of this extremely unlucky pregnancy including all blood work, all ultrasounds, all office visits and the emergency surgery is $6,177. That is our cost after insurance has paid. Effing ridiculous and seriously unfair.

I am lucky that I have an FSA plan through work. However, I budgeted $4,000 for our FET, and now all of that plus another 2 grand will go to this “accident”.

I have no idea when we can afford to do our FET now. On top of the ectopic cost, we also owe $3,000 in taxes.

I’m feeling rather defeated. As if infertility and endometriosis didn’t drain me enough emotionally, now it’s draining my bank account as well.

Yet another reason infertility sucks.


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